Counselling is a talking therapy that creates a facilitated space in which people can discuss their difficult feelings and the problems they encounter in a safe, confidential, non-judgemental environment.
I come from a humanistic / person-centred / client-centred stand-point, which basically means that I am here as your facilitator and that you are the expert on you, as only you can know your inner-most thoughts. I am not here to provide an advisory service. I am here to help you to explore your situation, your perceived problems and the options available to you, including the options you didn’t initially recognise that you had, so that you can choose the way to proceed that is best for you.
I work with clients on a one-to-one basis in an integrative way, which means I call upon the tools and approaches that appear to best fit when it comes to resolving the problems you are presenting. I talk more about the way I work on my approach page.
I work with a pluralistic philosophy, which means that if there is more than one way to approach a problem, I’ll let you know what those approaches are so that we can collaboratively choose which approach to take. I'm keen to give my clients the best, longest lasting affects in the shortest, least painful way possible.
As counsellor I act as the facilitator, holding the therapeutic space as a place for you to un-package and explore your thoughts and feelings. I am here to help you explore how you relate to the situation you find yourself in, what brought you there and your options for the future. In life we all have constraints we exist within. We explore what is in your power to change, what is not and uncover options, some of which you may not have realised were there.
Counselling is not a service where you are given advice but it will help you to identify what sources of guidance and additional practical help are available to you.
Counselling allows you a space to be real and to talk about the things that bother you deeply. It enables you to explore and express your feelings, even if you can't clearly name them. It helps you to understand why you do what you do and once you know this you have the choice over whether to change anything.
Counselling is about opening up but also keeping yourself safe. At times you will have the choice between making small changes to help to change your circumstances and/or outlook or to stay the same.
You will be given the time you need. At times you may be asked to decide what tasks you can set yourself in-between sessions to help you to progress.
You may find that a way of doing things that worked for you in the past really isn’t working for you any more but you’re not sure what or how to change.
Or you may be feeling stuck, uncomfortable and fearful but are not really sure what that’s all about.
Some of the potential benefits of individual counselling are:
Some of the limitations or drawbacks of individual counselling are:
From the start I want to know what your goals for therapy are, i.e. what you want to come away with from these sessions. Knowing this helps us to focus our approach, to help us get you from where you are to where you want to be. The size and complexity of these goals and the pace at which you can comfortably work through your challenges will have some influence on how many sessions will be needed.
I want to know if you’ve had any kind of talking therapy and if so, what worked well and what didn’t, so that we can use more of the things you found helpful before and avoid using the things you know were unhelpful to you.
I will need to know your GP details as a precautionary measure in order to help keep you safe.
If we are working online I will also need to know the contact details for you nominated emergency contact. This is someone I will contact if you do not attend without notice of lateness or cancellation, to check on your whereabouts and personal safety. It is helpful to let your nominated emergency contact know that they have been nominated so that a call doesn't come as a surprise to them. What we discuss will not be shared with them.
The frustration and stress of our modern time can take its toll.
You don’t have to wait until your life is spiralling out of control.
Are you ready to change your life for the better?